Guest writer Lucinda Martin for today’s One Year At A time post, following on from my previous one, that explained a little my personal thought trail that led to creating this photography project.
Lucinda Martin is a 36-year-old British teacher and writer, currently living in Dubai with her husband and their two cats. After studying English Literature at Sheffield University, Lucinda trained at the Oxford School of Drama and worked as an actor, singer and storyteller for some years before becoming an English and Drama teacher. On moving to Dubai, Lucinda launched the award-winning blog, homesickandheatstruck.com, and has worked as a freelance writer for the UAE women’s magazine, Aquarius. Her debut novel, ‘Moth and the Nightingale’ won the runner-up prize in the Montegrappa First Fiction Competition at the 2014 Emirates Airline Festival of Literature and is being published early in 2016.“One Year at a Time, a photographic study of real couples, real life and real love.
“Everybody loves a wedding.
A wedding is a gloriously happy occasion, a cause for great celebration. A wedding symbolizes love, romance and hope for the future. We take photographs to capture the beauty of this wonderful new beginning… But how often do we attempt to capture and celebrate the love and romance of the years that follow?
We all know that the realities of marriage are a million miles away from the fables of Hollywood, the fairy tale wedding, and the air-brushed glossiness of the gossip magazines. We all know that a real marriage is a long and sometimes difficult journey, complete with heartache, struggles and setbacks.
In a whirling world of transience and disposability, in which attachments are temporary and passions are fleeting, One Year at a Time believes there is true inspiration and beauty to be found in those of us who have managed to create something permanent and profound. One Year at a Time aims to capture the solid sincerity of real, lasting love.
According to Shakespeare, love is ‘an ever-fixed mark, that looks on tempests and is never shaken’. One Year at a Time is here to celebrate those marriages that have looked on tempests, the couples who have endured, the men and women who, after trials and tribulations, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, are still, quite wonderfully, absolutely head over heels in love with each other…”
I introduce to you, following perfectly from this beautiful introduction by Lucinda, Jayanti and Susan, married for 42 years, to the day.
Marriage in 5 words:
Susan: Love, happiness, friendship, security, variety.
Jayanti: Love, care, understanding, companionship, selflessness.
The best year so far:
So many, it is very hard to choose but August 2013 to August 2014 was fantastic. We travelled to Seville, Chicago, Boston, New England, Sydney, Melbourne, New York, & Provence. We got to see lots of our family, especially those in far away places. Susan sand in Carnegie Hall and celebrated her mother’s 90th birthday. A church marriage and a celebration in Provence for our daughter and a fabulous family holiday. Lots to be thankful for and many happy memories.
We have seen many places all over the world but on reflection we have chosen our home.
It is solid and secure, peaceful most of the time, based on traditional standards but modern and dynamic in style and we are very happy here.
” My husband is handsome and stylish (to me, of course!), he is kind and patient, loves me unconditionally and is very strong minded which means he can be stubborn, despite what he might tell you!
“Susan is gorgeous, talented and intelligent, kind, helpful and friendly with good taste, a model mother and an excellent wife.”
“We first saw each other from afar whilst working in different establishments on the same site. Each secretly thought the other very attractive to look at although that was all. I was persuaded to go to the Open Air Theatre in Regents Park in London with Jayanti, and I must admit I did so reluctantly because he had a reputation as a bit if a ladies’ man. I only went because I wanted to see A Midsummer Night’s Dream. I almost throttled him when I got there and discovered it was his staff outing, so embarrassing!
From then we just got to know each other better and better, and against all the odds have had a very successful and happy marriage.”
“Jayanti takes care of the garden, the car, decorating, filling the dishwasher and clearing the kitchen, the finances, anything technical or mechanical and thankfully most of the ironing! Susan is in charge of the shopping and cooking, washing and cleaning, coming up with projects for the house. We share choosing major purchases, travel choices, clothes shopping and entertainment options.”
Susan and Jayanti did not reveal what their secret was to have had this marriage last for this long. But I saw them, I saw them the whole time, giggling, laughing, teasing, talking a lot, finishing each other’s sentences. I saw them exchanging looks that no one else would understand. I saw them, still holding hands like they probably did for the whole of the time they have been married. I saw them playful, young at heart. It’s not breaking news people, I know, but it feels good to see.